Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child…
Over this past week, I have heard, from parents, on two different occasions that they are working hard to make their kid “bully proof”. (my term). Both were doing things so as to not let their kid be bullied when, and if, the times comes. Some parents manage their teens food choices, others manage what classes are allowed, while still others manage who their friends will be.
My response to this will ALWAYS be ~ build your child up from the inside so that they feel good about themselves and are confident in their choices ~ regardless of their surroundings. Be aware of your choices as a parent and, if necessary, question your motives. Am I doing this because it is best for my child or am I doing this so they will fit in, not get teased, have the popular friends?
Also, along with the same lines, it is OK for your child to be disappointed at times. I know that we want to protect our children from feeling hurt or sad, or really anything “negative”; just like we want to protect ourselves from feeling these things. But, what if, we have a foundation that allows us to experience those feelings, prior to adulthood, that makes those feelings more manageable. Can you imagine what it would be like to be open to all that life has to offer? The good and the bad ~ I wonder what risks people would take if we were able to experience the discomfort along with the exhilaration…..