walking alongside you

Trying to Understand...

There are so many things going on in this world that don't make sense.....Yesterday's bombing in Boston, last week a somewhat well know person took his own life...and for some day to day events just don't make sense.  

In the most trying and confusing times we work hard to make sense of it all.  We wrestle with the questions and we seek answers.  We work to create reasons in our own heads, we try to understand the reasoning from our own world view.  When someone we love dies unexpectedly or without reason we work to create a reason...we believe that we need a reason to help in the grief.  

Sometimes there just is no reason....

Sometimes we have to accept that no matter what reason we find it will not make sense...

Sometimes we have to accept that there will never be a reason that makes sense and we get to live in the tension of being OK enough to let that be.  To accept the loss without having "closure" ~ to accept without reason ~ to grieve without answers....

I often have conversations that finding a reason will not take the pain away; but, acceptance without reason still allows for healing and growth...